While it’s important for couples – in the words of Dan Savage – to be GGG there comes a point where a fundamental disconnect in sexual practices becomes an irreconcilable point of strife.As with the previous section, it doesn’t mean that the two of you need to have his-and-her matching floggers and ball-gags, but it mean that if one or the other has a kink the other can’t (or won’t) indulge within reason…Have you been wondering why you just can’t ever seem to find someone who’s you seems to get, at least for a little while. After all, what’s not to love about a woman who digs all the same video games, television shows and comics you do? You could play Xbox and then make out on the couch! Believe me: being with the wrong person is in many ways because you’ve actually got a deep-seated compatibility that goes beyond looks or superficialities.
That’s a micro issue, one that’s insignificant as long as you match up in the couples over the long run.
Sexual compatibility is incredibly easy when you’re still in the grip of that New Relationship Energy.
Mammals are coded for sexual novelty – known as the Coolidge Effect – and when we’re with a new partner we tend to fuck like a pair of weasels on meth with Viagra IV drips and a 50 gallon tub of Astro Glide.
Or you may be consistently mistaking sexual attraction and/or limerence for compatibility and when that initial buzz wears off…
well, there was never really anything there You have to have a level of self-awareness and a willingness to take an objective look at your love life and the people you’re attracted to.